Q:

This is so embarrassing, but I was wondering if you could tell me what's going on or give me a resource to do so. I can only orgasm through humping the floor. I am a female. The first time it happened I was like 4, maybe younger!!! I have tried manual stimulation but just can't seem to figure it out, even through research! It is frustrating because I have been in a loving sexual relationship for a long time now and I can't have an orgasm during sex, and I can't show him how to give me one manually because I don't know!

We have experimented with manual, oral, it feels nice but does not make me orgasm, but I can literally get one in a matter of seconds just by humping the bed for a little bit.... is there any way that whatever dry humping is doing for me can be transferred into manual stimulation?? Furthermore why can a few thrusts do this when clitoral stimulation can't?

I have tried to look for information on this, but everything is about clitoral stimulation, which maybe I'm just not doing right??? I don't even know if you can answer this or if this is a completely inappropriate question (which I'm really sorry if it is!) I just want to know if there's anything I can do.

 

A:

Not all women orgasm with direct clitoral stimulation so you are neither unique nor are you "not doing it right"--what you do works and works well! There is some learning involved from childhood but the positive point is, you can orgasm. Many women can't.

The best positions for you to orgasm during intercourse is you on top of your partner, or you face down, in your usual "orgasm" position, and your partner on top of you or providing any kind of stimulation that assists. Give up the idea of simultaneous orgasms during intercourse--how and when you orgasm is not as important as the fact you can. Your partner doesn't "give" you one, but supports you while you stimulate yourself to orgasm.

~The Doc