When you are experiencing painful feelings that are particularly hard for you to cope with, here is a list of ways you might soothe yourself. Look through the list to see if any of these ideas are helpful to you. You can also check out the relaxation video from the Mayo Clinic.
Phone a friend or relative
Daydream
Meditate
Visit a friend
Take a bath or shower
Help someone elseHave a good cry
Go shopping for something you need
Think positive thoughts
Clean
Go for a car ride
Think about someone who cares about you
Work on understanding your feelings
Apply logic to your situation
Pray
Organize things
Listen to music
Make social plans
Write in a diary or journal
Exercise
Talk yourself into a calmer state
Go to sleep
Engage in a hobby
Think about things in a realistic way
Think about the happiness of others
Spend time with your pet
Focus on your breathing
Stay busy
Take a walk
Think about someone you care about
Think of others who are worse off
Ask someone for help
Imagine talking to your therapist
Focus on the feeling until it passes
Create something
Cook or bake
Plan the future
Sit down and relax
Look for elements of humor in what you feel
Remind yourself that you’ve gotten through it before
Plan how to change the situation that led up to the feelings
Wait for the feelings to subside
Vent your feelings – hit something soft like a pillow
Give yourself a treat
Do tasks or errands that you enjoy
Be around children
Get into nature
Drink coffee or tea
Get some sun
Sing
Engage in sports with others
Attend something entertaining like a movie or concert
Talk about it with someone
Go out alone to be around other people
Get a massage
Play a musical instrument
Read something you find inspiring
Seek out sources of comedy
Involve yourself in your religion
Go to a location you find peaceful or harmonious
Ride in a boat
Try a new food recipe
Contact a person from your past
Volunteer at something you find useful
Write a letter
Polish furniture or your shoes
Buy or pick some flowers
Visit a pet store
Watch TV
Watch less TV
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