Abusive Relationship Warning Signs
Abusive Relationship Warning Signs:
- Your partner is jealous and possessive towards you.
- Your partner tries to control you by being bossy and never considers your opinions.
- Your partner scares you, making you afraid of how s/he will react to things you do or say.
- Your partner has a quick temper and history of violence towards others.
- Your partner pressures you into doing things that you do not want to do, such as having sex or breaking the law.
- Your partner abuses illegal drugs and alcohol.
- Your partner blames you for their problems, including those they brought upon themselves.
- Your partner has a history of bad relationships.
- Your partner believes that in relationships men should take the lead and women should follow.
- Your family and friends have warned you about your partner or told you that they are worried for your safety.
Remember, in a healthy relationship, each person is entitled to:
- Have their needs be as important as their partner's needs.
- Be free from blame or responsibility for their partner's behavior or actions.
- Be able to voice their thoughts, feelings and opinions.
- Be free from emotional, sexual, financial and physical abuse at all times.
- Change their minds and not feel threatened.
- Spend time with their friends and family and not feel pressured by their partner's jealousy.
- Live without fear and confusion from their partner's anger.
- Be treated with respect and never called names.
- Negotiate conflict and make decisions about the relationship together.
- Enjoy each other's dreams.
If you feel you are in an abusive relationship:
- Take it seriously. If you are in immediate danger, call the police.
- Talk to someone about it, such as a friend, parent, clergy, or counselor. You are not alone.
- Get yourself a safety plan; the CASAS Help Line can assist with this.
- Call fro help to assist you with restraining orders, safety planning, education, support, and other services you may need.
If you suspect someone is in an abusive relationship:
- Voice your concerns.
- Don't force them to break up with their partner until they are ready to do so on their own terms.
- Tell them that they do not have to fact the situation alone.
- Offer your support and guidance, and refer them to the appropriate resources.
- Educate yourself about abusive relationships.
Source: Adapted from Crime and Sexual Assault Services (CASAS) website, Student Affairs, WWU